{"id":45,"date":"2007-07-18T14:54:49","date_gmt":"2007-07-18T19:54:49","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/forgiveit.com\/?page_id=45"},"modified":"2014-07-06T07:06:13","modified_gmt":"2014-07-06T12:06:13","slug":"the-fruit-of-judging-expectations","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/forgiveit.com\/?page_id=45","title":{"rendered":"Judging Expectations"},"content":{"rendered":"

By Roy Waldrom<\/strong><\/p>\n

The Fruit of Judging Expectations<\/strong><\/p>\n

Expectation is wishing with confidence of fulfillment ,
\n The feeling that something is about to happen<\/p>\n

We had all our children their spouses and grand-children home for Christmas.
\nI spent time pondering what I was expected to do?, What do they expect of me?
\nWhen I asked the Holy Spirit that question, What were they expecting of me?
\nThe answer I got was they were not expecting anything..<\/p>\n

What was going on deep within me was, I had an expectation that people
\nhave expectations of me.
\nThat is a judgment on my part that has locked me in to believing people have
\nexpectations of me. This is a control because without communication I am
\nlost in the control of the expectation that I do not know about but only think
\nI do.<\/p>\n

This all goes way back in my life, yet only now has the key been revealed,
\nso now I must repent [of the expectation] to be free.<\/p>\n

Bizarre to say the least.
\nNo one is responsible or guilty of expectations that have never been
\ncommunicated.<\/p>\n

The above situation plays out mostly in children who have been subject to rejection.
\nRejection causes a child to have no self-esteem, always looking for
\napproval, hence looking for ways to prove they are worthy to be accepted.<\/p>\n

When there is no positive affirmation to the good deeds, a wound festers
\ndeep in the inner being. To survive often manifests in rebellion.<\/p>\n

The root of all rebellion is a real or perceived rejection.
\n(For a fuller explanation of the rejection read section D in the notes on
\nthe Ministry of Reconciliation at www.forgiveit.com)<\/p>\n

It is only when I set people free to have a problem with me that I am
\nfree.
\nPeople who have a problem with any problem, have a problem.<\/p>\n

The problem is they have judged and in doing so locked themselves in (mentally and emotionally, plus if not dealt with in later years, physically.) to being controlled by what they judged.<\/p>\n

Put another way,<\/p>\n

For a person to be rejected a perpetrator makes a judgment that the victim
\nis not worthy of their love, acceptance and forgiveness, and they have a
\nright to use them any way they choose, for whatever they desire, for example,
\nrape them.<\/p>\n

To rape a person there has to be a judgment that they have a right to do so.
\nThe victim often has a judgment against the very thing that happened to them
\nwhich is the key to why they become a victim, Job 3:25, Proverbs 26:2 and
\nDeuteronomy 24:16. [quote the verses?] <\/p>\n

To make it worse, when the victim judges the perpetrator they lock in the
\n( perpetrator\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s ) judgment behind what was done to them.<\/p>\n

A judgment of a judgment resulting in a double curse.<\/p>\n

All mankind is a victim of the fall recorded in Genesis 3.<\/p>\n

Children are not innocent, but they are ignorant.
\nIn the heart of every person when born is a fallen nature that is full of
\npride.
\nThe pride is that they are perfect and pure and no one should mistreat
\nthem.
\nProverbs 16:18 Pride goes before destruction, and a haughty spirit before a
\nfall.
\nThat sets the child up for a fall because no one is perfect, especially
\nparents and siblings.
\nAlso the child has no choice to where it was born or its parents.<\/p>\n

The Key to Freedom<\/p>\n

Repent for judging out of self-knowledge obtained from human knowledge and
\nunderstanding.<\/p>\n

Repent from being taught what is right and wrong by a set of rules that say what is
\ngood and what is evil according to man\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s understanding.
\nThere were 2 trees in the Garden Genesis 2 and 3.
\nOne called the knowledge of Good and Evil, which Father God told man not to eat of and the day he did he would die.
\nCommunion between God and Man would be broken.
\nThis tree has 2 fruit, both forbidden, why?
\nBecause it is using comparison from law, not from relationship.
\nMan saying and doing things independent of the one who created him and the universe, Father God.
\nThe other tree was called the tree of Life.
\nAll wisdom, knowledge and understanding is in that tree, the only catch is that it requires a relationship with Life who is Jesus,
\nJohn 14:6.I am thee way, thee truth and thee Life.<\/p>\n

Repent of Judging, (what one sees and been subject to, instead of knowing why.)<\/p>\n

Man judges by what people say and do, God judges the heart.
\n1 Samuel 16:7, Jeremiah 17:9-10, Matthew 15:8-9.<\/p>\n

A question.
\nWhat causes an incident to become a control?<\/p>\n

Why is it that a person who was raped in childhood (which is a happening in
\ntime as sad as it is) 20 years later still being controlled emotionally and
\nmentally.?<\/p>\n

Answer.
\nJudging it. If there is no judgment, there is no control.<\/p>\n

Example. A lady around 27 years of age asked for prayer concerning her
\nweight.
\nMy reply was that I wanted to talk to her about rejection.
\nShe shared that she was molested as a teenager and I told her she needed to
\nforgive the man. Her reply was that she couldn’t.<\/p>\n

The word I received by the Holy Spirit was that if she didn’t she would live
\nin the ever present state of being molested.
\nShe shouted Wow three times and said \u00e2\u20ac\u0153I forgive\u00e2\u20ac\u009d and was instantly set free.
\nA week later we talked, she had lost 11 pounds in weight and had not changed
\nher diet.
\n(One way of loosing weight)<\/p>\n

The lie we have all been fed is that to be free the perpetrator needs to pay for what they did and the victim would be free.
\nIt is never the incident that destroys, it is judging and unless the judgment is removed there is no true freedom. <\/p>\n

It s a narrow yet exciting path because it means one is in communication
\nwith the true life (living by the Holy Spirit) that sets the captives free.<\/p>\n

The Holy Spirit longs to give people the answers that will set them free,
\nbut, being true to His nature, he has to be asked.<\/p>\n

James 4:2 You lust, and have not: ye kill, and desire to have, and cannot
\nobtain: you fight and war, yet you have not, because ye ask not.<\/p>\n

A friend wrote,
\nWhen you think about it, that is a very common control. It is also connected
\nto wanting to be liked\/approved. <\/p>\n

All of us need to repent, and set our own selves free not to be liked\/approved by others!
\nIn a way the control\u00e2\u20ac\u00a0 is not on others, but ourselves.<\/p>\n

What does it mean to repent?<\/p>\n

To repent means to turn around, stop blaming, take full responsibility for
\nmy response and ask Father God to forgive.<\/p>\n

Why?
\nBecause He has totally forgiven all man_s sin, (Disobedience).<\/p>\n

Not forgiving (unforgiveness) is the greatest statement of pride, which says
\n\u00e2\u20ac\u009dI am better, I know better and never do anything wrong..\u00e2\u20ac\u009d<\/p>\n

After confessing being wrong for responding out of pride, ask to be forgiven.<\/p>\n

Receive the forgiveness, command the control to leave and pray an
\nunconditional blessing down upon the perpetrator.<\/p>\n

You will know when you are free because you will feel love, joy and peace
\nflowing up from deep with in.<\/p>\n

John 14:27 Peace I leave with you, my peace I give unto you: not as the
\nworld gives, give I unto you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it
\nbe afraid.<\/p>\n

Colossians 3:15 And let the peace of God rule in your hearts, to the which
\nalso ye are called in one body; and be ye thankful.<\/p>\n

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