{"id":50,"date":"2007-07-18T16:15:30","date_gmt":"2007-07-18T21:15:30","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/forgiveit.com\/?page_id=50"},"modified":"2014-07-06T07:06:34","modified_gmt":"2014-07-06T12:06:34","slug":"responsibility","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/forgiveit.com\/?page_id=50","title":{"rendered":"Responsibility"},"content":{"rendered":"

By Roy Waldrom<\/strong>
\nWhy was man created?
\nTo reflect his Creator.
\nGenesis 1:26-27.<\/p>\n

Male was created first. Genesis 2:7
\nThen God created Female out of part of man. Genesis 2:21
\nMan = Male and Female, not one or the other, only complete when both
\ncome together and walk in harmony and produce life. (Offspring)
\nHe produces the seed and she incubates the seed and gives it a body to live
\nin.<\/p>\n

And God said, \u00e2\u20ac\u0153Let us make man in our image, after our likeness
\nTo have dominion over the fish, birds, cattle, over all the earth, and every
\ncreeping thing that creeps on the earth.
\nWhy was woman created?
\nTo be a companion.
\nGenesis 2:18
\nTo be a helper. To help, succor, support.
\nTo succor = assistance in time of difficulty;
\nTogether to carry out what they were created for.
\nThis was to be done in relationship with their Creator.<\/p>\n

They lost control of the world to Satan.
\nGenesis 3 Locked themselves in to control through the Tree of the
\nKnowledge of Good and Evil.<\/p>\n

Then came Calvary, where the disobedience of the fall was atoned for, and
\nagain, out of choice, man could return to reflecting his creator’s image and
\ntaking dominion, as he lives in a living relationship with his creator by
\neating of the Tree of Life.
\nSatan, after Calvary, can only gain control by deception.
\n2 John 7 For many deceivers are entered into the world, who confess not
\nthat Jesus Christ is come in the flesh. This is a deceiver and an antichrist.
\nSatan sends thoughts, situations, problems, all to tempt man to judge out of
\nknowledge gained from the Tree of Knowledge.<\/p>\n

As long as man goes to the Tree of Life he remains in that place of
\ndominion.
\nThis requires communication with Father God, through Jesus, by the Holy
\nSpirit and with each other as Man, especially husbands and wives and on to
\ntheir children.
\nMan living in harmony with God and himself fulfills what man was created
\nfor.
\nAs Jesus, the bridegroom, is not complete without his bride (the church) so
\nthe male is not complete without the female.
\nFor the male to come to his full potential he needs a bride.
\nAs he fulfills her needs, she in return brings him to his full potential.
\nComplete manhood is only obtained through woman.
\nAnything less is independence and control on his part.
\nHence for man to come to full stature, he needs a woman to make that
\nhappen.
\nFor a woman to make that happen, she has to be complete by the male
\nmeeting her needs.
\nIt is all about communication.<\/p>\n

To be one, there needs to be open and continual communication with Father
\nGod by the Spirit and as man and wife, with each other.
\nAdam and Eve were not communicating with God, or each other.<\/p>\n

The more the western world has buried itself in what can be only described
\nas secular humanism, (which is all about self, man, soul, law and nothing of
\nthe spirit) the spiritual world is an anathema.
\nYet man has a spiritual side and tries to satisfy it with all sorts of witchcraft;
\ne.g. Superstition, Meditations, Eastern Religions, Divination, Seances, all
\nof which control by supernatural powers.
\nRe – Communication.<\/p>\n

In the Old Testament, they were told to convey the things of the law,
\nwherever they were, home, work, walking, playing, wherever. Deut 6:7
\nIn the New Testament, we are told that the fellowship we are having with
\nFather God we are to have with each other. 1 John 1:3
\nTo add to this, Jesus even knew their thoughts, Matthew 12:25.
\nThe Spirit is a two-edged sword, a discerner of the thoughts and intents of
\nthe heart. Hebrews 4:12.<\/p>\n

As for being totally honest and sharing our thoughts, that would be true
\nopenness and honesty.
\nThere is a film out where a man could hear people’s thoughts and we
\nlaughed our heads off.
\nThe Holy Spirit knows every thought we have and the reason behind the
\nthought.<\/p>\n

Adam failed to be responsible for Eve, he left the serpent to talk her into
\neating from the forbidden tree.
\nHe even blamed God for her, and said she was His responsibility.
\nGenesis 3:12 – “The woman you gave me”
\nTo be responsible is an act of will, a choice.
\nTo be responsible there needs to be communication.
\nTo be responsible is to be a channel.<\/p>\n

Man was given dominion over the earth and every thing in it, but as a
\nchannel, not the source.
\nMan is to be responsible for woman, Spiritually, Mentally, Emotionally and
\nPhysically.
\nWomen are to let men be responsible in those areas.
\nHow is this done for each area?
\nSpiritually.
\nWashing the woman with the word. Ephesians 5:26<\/p>\n

These are Father’s words from the written word, words that build up, not
\nwords of judgment.
\nAlso personal encouragement, as most mens words to their wives are words
\nof either correction or judgment.
\nMentally.<\/p>\n

Feeding the mind with information that is a blessing, also through her telling
\nhim what she has heard through the day from wherever, Bible, TV, Radio,
\nreading or listening to other people. He is responsible to show her in a Godly
\nmanner, things that Father God tells him by the Spirit are not edifying.
\nPut another way, he is to tell her , of the seed she has gathered, which to
\ncultivate and which to discard.
\nEmotionally.<\/p>\n

At all times when stressed, he is to provide the logical answer and give her a
\nhug. He is to be a good listener, not react, but stay calm, especially in voice.
\nPhysically.<\/p>\n

Make sure all her needs are met. Made clear in, 1 Peter 3:7.
\nTo know, to perceive, to be aware where the wife and daughters are at all
\ntimes and cover (Protect) them.
\nWomen are to let man be responsible in those areas.
\nTo give the logical answer to what she hears and feels.
\nWhen a female is born, in their heart they know they are vulnerable and need
\nprotection. When the natural father fails to provide, the female grows up
\nwith a wounded spirit and will either wander through life an emotional mess
\ngoing from one hurt to another, or put a wall around their own heart, thus
\nbecoming hard and independent.<\/p>\n

She rejects male leadership and seeks to take charge.<\/p>\n

For healing to take place, all judgment of failure needs to be removed.
\nThe place to start is to accept that man is a created being, and has a maker
\nand needs to read what his handbook says on the subject.
\n1 Corinthians 11:3. Know Father God’s order and accept it with a glad heart.
\nTo have a submissive attitude, not out of law, but with a grateful heart.
\nMany men come into marriage ignorant of their responsibility.
\nMany women come into marriage broken emotionally because the first man
\nin their lives, (their Dad), failed to cover their emotions or any of the other 3
\nareas.<\/p>\n

Women get into cycles of abusive relationships because they judge when it
\nfirst happened, and what they judge looses a spirit to control them.
\nTo judge is to play god, it is an act of pride.
\nWhen a response is one of judgment to a situation, the respondent binds
\nthemselves into the judgment behind the situation.
\nWhen they marry they have an expectation that this area will be covered, but
\nbecause they have judged their father for his failure, this locks the husband
\nout from being able to be responsible. Thus it poisons the relationship
\nbecause the male cannot participate and meet his responsibilities to do the
\nright thing. The woman is bound in fear by her judgment, and won’t or can’t
\ncommunicate.<\/p>\n

Males direction spiritually and naturally should be found in a living
\nrelationship with Father God through Jesus, by the Holy Spirit.
\nAll female direction should be found first in their human father, then in their
\nhusband, who are to be a channels of Father God through Jesus by the Holy
\nSpirit.<\/p>\n

When the male operates in this fashion, the female will not have a
\n“submission issue” because she will feel protected, guarded and loved.
\nIn the case of having neither father nor husband, she is free to go straight to
\nGod and be open to whomever He uses to be his channel.
\nShould the female judge either her father or her husband for their failure in
\nnot being responsible, she will then take on a control of independence, and
\ncome under the spirit of deception.
\nThey are locked into deception, cannot discern the truth, ruled by emotions
\nor logic, summed up in fear, which blocks the clear word.
\nEve was easily deceived
\n2 Corinthians 11:3.
\nBut I fear, lest by any means, as the serpent beguiled Eve through his
\nsubtlety, so your minds should be corrupted from the simplicity that is in
\nChrist.<\/p>\n

Should they refuse to repent of their judgment, they put themselves into
\nisolation, and the male is no longer responsible.
\nThey lock themselves in and the male out.
\nThe reverse of this is, the male has married the person he deserves because
\nhe has allowed himself to be seduced from his right to lead – either by
\njudging his mother for speaking negative things about his father or men in
\ngeneral, or in childhood he let a girl lead him into sexual foreplay.
\nThe result of this is found in Proverbs 7.
\nAt the point of judging and acting out their judgment, a person no longer
\nbelieves in that relationship, e.g. friendship, marriage
\nThrough judging all relationships are killed. (destroyed)
\nUnless judgment is removed there can be no true reconciliation.
\nAny couple that stays together where there is judgment are both
\ncontrolled by the judgment.<\/p>\n

Both have to forgive to mend a broken relationship.
\nIn marriage this can happen either way. Where either partner repents but the
\nother refuses to do so, the unrepentant has departed the marriage and the
\nother must let them go. If not, they come under the same control.
\nThe male has departed when he doesn’t take up his responsibilities.<\/p>\n

A big factor to breakdown of any relationship, especially marriage, is lack of
\ncommunication.<\/p>\n

In the heart of either is an idol of Selfishness, Independence, Pride.
\nIn such situations the big question is, how would one minister these insights
\ninto a dysfunctional relationship, once you heard the sob story of the victim?
\nWhere does one go from here to help folk get insight?
\nThe hardest thing to get across to the wounded is that what happened, no
\nmatter how bad, was just a happening often in early childhood.
\nWhat has given it control and keeps it as a now living pain is the victims
\njudgment.
\nTo tell them it is their judgment that is the problem, is like putting a bomb
\nunder them.
\nBut, it is the truth. Hence it must be spoken in love.
\nThe key to release is to repent for judging.<\/p>\n

True repentance opens the door for Father God to flood that person with His
\nlove and healing followed by joy and peace.
\nThe fault of the victim is the judging of the event, not the actual event.
\nThe victim mentality wants revenge\/justice\/recompense, etc.
\nA big problem is how to convey to the person that what happened to them
\nwas wrong\/bad\/undeserved, etc., but their error is judging what happened
\nand thus locking in the pain of the event\/act.<\/p>\n

Another issue – how do you counsel the victim who might well be the
\n“innocent” party to the event and wounded?
\nHow do you teach them their accountability for their reaction\/response, and
\nlead them to repent of that, and to forgive?
\nThe answer is to tell them you have the key to setting them free.<\/p>\n

It is like a Doctor telling you the key to you getting better is to do this or
\ntake that.
\nIn the past, when a person becomes wounded, we have believed the key to
\nhealing was to get the perpetrator to repent and pay restoration of some kind,
\neven to go to jail for a period of time.
\nWhat we are now seeing to be healed, is that as Father God has wiped out all
\nHis judgment against us, all we have to do is wipe out all our judgments
\nagainst our fellow man.<\/p>\n

There is no such thing as innocence, because we are all born sinners and our
\nspirit knows that.
\nBorn in sin and shapen in iniquity. Psalm 51:5
\nThere is such a thing as ignorance, which leads mankind to have false
\nexpectations.<\/p>\n

These false expectations are judgments, laws, controls that bind and set a
\nperson up for a fall.
\nIn the mix is fear. It can be the fears of the parents which opens the door to
\nthe affliction.
\nThat which he feared came upon him. Job 3:25.
\nYes, the bottom line is my response to whatever, that determines from that
\nmoment on freedom or bondage.<\/p>\n

As long as the victim does not take on board the abuse, they are free.
\nBy the time we come to salvation we have taken on board a truck load, but
\nJesus said, cast all your cares on me for I care for you. 1 Peter 5:7
\nCome unto me all you who are burdened and heavy laden and I will give you
\nrest. Matthew 11:28-30<\/p>\n

The truth is most people do not know the love of God, or know His
\nforgiveness and their hearts are still unredeemed.
\nDepart from me, I do not know you, (have never had intercourse with you,
\nhave never pierced your heart) Matthew 7:23.
\nThe key to what has given the past control (trauma, rejection, abuse) and
\nkeeps the pain as a moment by moment living reality, is the victim’s
\njudgment.<\/p>\n

To tell that to a person who has been emotionally mentally and physically
\nraped in the most horrible way, can only be received by the anointing of the
\nHoly Spirit. Hence exhorted to speak the truth in love. Ephesians 4:15.
\nUnless conveyed by the Spirit, it is taken as judgment.
\nYou are saying it is my fault.
\nThe straight answer is yes, it is.<\/p>\n

Pride demands I should never be rejected, demands I should never have any
\nthing but the best according to my expectations.
\nPride demands I was born into this world perfect, sinless and pure with no
\nroom for the sin nature in me, let alone any one else.
\nThere is No acknowledgement that all mankind from the fall are sinners.
\nAll are born under the control of the knowledge of good and evil, with no
\nright to the Tree of Life.<\/p>\n

The wonder of it all is that through Jesus dying for the sin of the world on
\nthe Cross, all mankind has the right to walk away from the Tree of the
\nKnowledge of Good and Evil (and its control,) to the Tree of Life – by
\nsimply being prepared to repent and turn away from judging in every shape
\nor form.
\nStop playing god by judging mans faults.<\/p>\n

Judging what man does, not understanding why.
\nThe reason people do not want to give up judging is because they still want
\nrevenge, are deeply angry, and believe they have a right to judge.
\nTo think that any one who repents of judging can be totally set free and
\nreceive total healing is nothing short of a miracle.
\nSo simple, so profound, it causes many to stumble.
\nJudging is control and death; not judging is life with a capital L.<\/p>\n

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