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An entire seminar by Roy Waldrom<\/strong><\/p>\n

Subjects<\/strong>
\n(A) The Inner State of People when Born into the World
\n(B) God’s Dealing With Sin Through the Cross
\n(C) Judgment and how it destroys Human Relationships and how to deal with that
\n(D) What is an Idol in the Heart and how does it Get There
\n(E) What is a Soul Tie and how does that work
\n(F) Trauma and its Control
\n(G) The Destruction of Independence and Control in Marriage and all relationships.
\n(H) The Root of Divorce
\n(I) Law Versus Grace
\n(J) How Spiritual issues affect the Physical Body<\/p>\n

(A) The Inner State of People When Born into the World<\/strong><\/p>\n

Then God said, “Let Us make man in Our image, according to Our likeness; and
\nlet them rule over the fish of the sea and over the birds of the sky and over the
\ncattle and over all the earth, and over every creeping thing that creeps on the
\nearth.” And God created man in His own image, in the image of God He created
\nhim; male and female He created them. (Gen. 1:26,27)
\nGod is a Spirit – He created man in His image, so Man is a spirit, but who also
\nhas a soul, and who lives in a body.
\nHumanity is born disconnected from God the Creator because of the
\ndisobedience of the First man…
\nAnd He said, “Who told you that you were naked? Have you eaten from the tree
\nof which I commanded you not to eat?” (Gen. 3:11)
\n“And you were dead in your trespasses and sins..” (Eph. 2:1 )
\nThe effects of the disconnection is Death, so that the state of spirit, dead
\n(because separate from God), the state of the soul, corrupted, and the state of
\nthe body, subjected to decay.
\nAre you Alone? Fearful? In physical, emotional or mental pain? Abandoned?
\nEmpty? Lost? Confused? Rejected? Sad? Guilty? Depressed? Orphaned?
\nAll these, and more, are the fruits of Death as evidenced in life.
\nHowever, God wants to remake the connection. He wants to build a living
\nrelationship with man, and restore life to him. First, to the spirit of man, then to
\nthe soul, and ultimately, the body.
\nIf we can remake this connection, we need never be lonely again. So, instead of
\nDeath and Destruction, we can be…
\nHealed, Happy, and filled with Love, Joy, and Peace.
\nBe reconciled to God, and even to yourself!<\/p>\n

(B) God’s Dealing With Sin Through the Cross<\/strong><\/p>\n

“This is how much God loved the world: He gave his Son, his one and only Son.
\nAnd this is why: so that no one need be destroyed; by believing in him, anyone
\ncan have a whole and lasting life. God didn’t go to all the trouble of sending his
\nSon merely to point an accusing finger, telling the world how bad it was. He
\ncame to help, to put the world right again.”
\n(John 3:16,17 The Message)
\nThe Bible says that God’s righteous judgement is against the sin offence of man,
\nbut the heart of God, however, is not for judgement, but for restoration…
\n“mercy triumphs over judgement.” (James 2:13)
\nAs a result, what God did was to take His own judgement upon Himself by
\nallowing His Son to suffer it. So, by this means, God not only removed man’s
\noffence against Him, but His own Judgement on man as well!
\nSo great is the resulting restoration, that not only was the way restored for man
\nto enter into God’s Presence once again, but even to eat of the Tree of Life that
\nwas previously denied him!
\nNow all these things are from God, who reconciled us to Himself through Christ,
\nand gave us the ministry of reconciliation, namely, that God was in Christ
\nreconciling the world to Himself, not counting their trespasses against them, and
\nHe has committed to us the word of reconciliation. (2 Cor. 5:18,19)
\nBecause Jesus was both God and man, He bridged the gap for all Humanity
\nwhen He died (in our place) on the Cross. By this one act, all the world’s
\noffenses were forgiven, for all people, in every country, in all times, past, present,
\nfuture.<\/p>\n

(C) Judgment and how it Destroys Human Relationships.<\/strong><\/p>\n

If you have died with Christ to the elementary principles of the world, why, as if
\nyou were living in the world, do you submit yourself to decrees, such as, “Do not
\nhandle, do not taste, do not touch!” ( Col. 2:20,21)
\nThe world is built and run on law and judging…
\nThe nature of God is that all He wants to do is to find ways of filling up everything
\nwith His love. The result is Creation.
\nThe purpose of God in Creation, out of His loving heart as Creator Father God, is
\nto bring His love, joy and peace through his loving rule.
\nHowever, by definition, love, which is about freedom, means that creation must
\nbe founded on the basis of free will.
\nHence, the two Trees! For in the Trees is the choice of ruling out of relationship
\nwith God, exercising His rule as his regents, or ruling, independently, outside of
\nrelationship with God.
\nAnd the Lord God planted a garden toward the east, in Eden; and there He
\nplaced the man whom He had formed. And out of the ground the Lord God
\ncaused to grow every tree that is pleasing to the sight and good for food; the tree
\nof life also in the midst of the garden, and the tree of the knowledge of good and
\nevil.
\n(Gen. 2:8,9)
\nSatan and the angels were given the first choice and he, Satan, chose
\nindependence from God – that is, the second tree. God gave Satan entry to the
\nGarden to allow him to take Adam to the two Trees (for God would not tempt him,
\nJames 1:13).
\nAdam chose to eat of the “Tree of the Knowledge of Good and Evil”, of
\nindependence of God, and exercise his own rule.
\nHowever, whereas the judging that is perfect and which can only come from the
\nheart of God that is righteous, all that man is able to do without that heart, is to
\nrule through the second Tree, forming opinions and making decisions out of a
\nformulation of right and wrong, good and evil. This is basis of all society and its
\nlaws, all culture and its values.
\nHowever, instead of the righteousness of God, the result of this rule is merely law
\nand condemnation. This is judging, and through the knowledge of good and evil
\nthat it brings, it introduces independence into creation, instead of relationship
\nwith God.
\nSo, instead of the heart of God extending into creation, law and condemnation is
\nloosed into it, resulting in Death and Destruction.
\nJesus came to redeem Creation, destroying illicit judging, and through His
\nobedience as the Second Adam, restoring God’s rule in Creation, exercising His
\njudgments. Those who are his disciples are his co-labourers and co-
\nintercessors in this work, if we will so choose.
\nTo enact this and bring healing to Creation, His followers must begin by taking all
\ntheir judgments off His Creation (above all because these judgements are
\nagainst the Creator, Himself).
\nThen, every judgment must be taken out of every relationship, just as God has
\nremoved all His judgments from us.
\nBut, what exactly is judgment? It is that which condemns and passes
\nsentence, rejects and pushes away, putting another person under, it is that
\nwhich has no love.
\nAnd how does it manifest itself? In marriage, for example, by treating the
\nrelationship as, teacher-pupil. Generally, dealing with offences with anger
\ninstead of love.
\nSo, the First Tree is about love, joy and peace and connection between God and
\nman, and between men. In short, it is all about Relationship.
\nThe Second Tree produces the knowledge of good and evil, allowing mankind to
\nmake judgements outside of a living relationship with Creator God.
\nHowever, the result is that outside the loving heart of God, man only sees the
\nacts and not the motives, giving rise to judging, defending, justifying, accusing.
\nJudging is inherently part of man’s fallen nature.
\nThe rule of Father God and His kingdom is all about bringing love, joy peace,
\nsecurity, contentment, which is all freedom. The rule of satan opposes the rule of
\nGod and his aim is to bring domination, manipulation and control.
\nWhere there is no Knowledge there is no Judgement. Knowledge is not the
\nproblem but where the Knowledge came from is the problem the source of the
\nKnowledge.
\nThe outworking of Judging…
\n1) Judging as the basis of life in this world..
\nJudging goes far wider than the religious box that Christians put it in. It goes
\nbeyond just passing sentence on people: it is even at the root of having an
\nopinion, because the question is whether the opinion came from the Tree of Life
\n(God, the Holy Spirit) or whether it came from the (forbidden) Tree of the
\nKnowledge of Good and Evil. (It is not that knowledge in itself, is evil – no more
\nthan money is evil – rather it is the love of knowledge, which is evil, in the same
\nway that the love of money is evil, for it has become a god, that to which we look
\nfor security and guidance.)
\nJudging also goes even wider, still! It is not just “passing sentence” that
\nsomething is evil, it is also passing sentence, that something is good!! All this
\nis in the second Tree; only God is allowed to say what is good, or evil.
\nJudging creates law – that is, the setting of standards by which everything is
\nmeasured. The result of instituting is that there is now one of two choices placed
\nbefore man: he can fight it, or agree with it. In the first case, fighting it, rebellion is
\nloosed and the result is division. In the second case, agreeing with it, the result is
\nmere conformity. However, coming from law, that which is evil (in the sight of
\nthe law) and that which is good (in the sight of law), both are bondage, both
\nembody the spirit of control!!
\nThe Third Way..
\nInstead of fighting it or doing it, there is an alternative: forgive it!
\n2) Judging in the Church
\nThe foundation of the Church was such that differences of opinion were resolved
\nand unity maintained through Spirit lead relationship, there was a point when
\njudgment and control came into the Church, dividing it into sects and
\ndenominations, bringing separation of relationship, and with it the curse of death
\nand division, denying it the commanded blessing of unity.
\nAs one example, the outpouring of the Spirit that birthed the Brethren movement
\nwas destroyed through a disagreement between Darby and Newton over a
\nmatter of doctrine concerning leadership that substituted authoritarian structure
\nover relationship. Every move of the Holy Spirit has been characterized by this
\nphenomenon of the law opposing the Spirit, to this very day.
\nScriptures of judgment
\nYou are measured by the judgment you give. Speck versus plank. (Matthew
\n7:1-5) judge not, condemn not, forgive and you will be forgiven, give and it will be give
\nto you good measure pressed down, shaken together and running over. (Luke
\n6:37)
\nYou are inexcusable oh man who judge. You who judge, you practice the same
\nthings that you judge for the goodness of God leads man unto repentance.
\n(Romans 2:1-4)
\nDo not speak evil of one another and judge your brother. Who are you to judge
\nanother. (James 4:11)
\nBut why do you show contempt for your brother (judge him) each will give an
\naccount to God and therefore do not put a stumbling block or a cause to fall in
\nyour brothers way. Let us not judge one another any more. (Romans 14:10-13)
\n\u00e2\u20ac\u0153Do not go to the world to judge issues amongst yourself the saints will judge
\nthe world and angels. (1 Corinthians 6:1-5)
\nNo weapon formed against shall prosper and every tongue raised against you
\nwill be condemned*. This is the heritage of the servants of the Lord and your
\nrighteousness is from Me.(Isaiah 54:17)
\n* How does one condemn without judging, since it also says, We are to judge
\nnot, but we will judge angels and nations; and Those who condemn you, you
\nshall condemn?
\nAnswer: We condemn by not condemning, by not judging. When we do not judge
\nanother person who is judging, we leave them naked, we leave them with no
\nargument. We do not fight fire with fire because then we simply build the fire!
\nWhat is sin?
\nSin, in its simplicity is Disobedience. Lying, cheating, stealing, which are
\nordinarily considered as sin are actually just the fruit of sin.
\nSo, sin is disobedience and lawlessness against God. It is not caring about
\nanyone else – all I care about is me. It is not love, it is not considering the other
\nperson. Sin is to do with the me, with selfishness.
\nThe first disobedience: Adam and Eve chose the tree of Knowledge of Good and
\nEvil. When they ate from that tree, they came to a place of understanding, seeing
\nand knowing that they did not have before. Their eyes were opened to the
\nknowledge of good and evil, they lost their protection and as a result came under
\nthe control of Fear – and which Control uses to control, for where there is no
\nFear, there is no control! (1 John 4:18)
\nGood comes from the same tree as evil. Good is just as forbidden as evil. In both
\ncases we are working from (a knowledge of) right and wrong. In it we are not
\nexercising the judgments of God, but judging, accusing, justifying and
\ndefending. It is all to do with self. We are putting self, and the other person,
\ndown. It is a Win\/Lose position instead of a Win\/Win position.
\nGood and Evil:
\nRight \/ Wrong
\nJudging
\nJustifying
\nAccusing
\nDefending
\nAll judgement from good and evil is according to what a person, does, and not
\non, why. God always judges on,why. He always looks at the motives of the
\nheart, what is happening in the heart; why they do it not only what they have
\ndone.
\nThe above is the opening to releasing rejection, which is a death curse to all
\nrelationship.
\nOn the other hand, the Tree of life is Jesus (John 16:6). Man was supposed to
\nreceive all knowledge from the Tree of Life, through the Holy Spirit (John 16:13-
\n15).<\/p>\n

(D) What is an Idol in the Heart and how does it get there?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Definition: An idol is the control of the heart through a judgment.
\n“You shall have no other gods before me.You shall not make for yourself an idol,
\nor any likeness of what is in heaven above or on the earth beneath or in the
\nwater under the earth. You shall not worship them or serve them; for I, the Lord
\nyour God, am a jealous God, visiting the iniquity of the fathers on the children, on
\nthe third and the fourth generations of those who hate Me, but showing
\nlovingkindness to thousands, to those who love me and keep my
\ncommandments.” (Ex. 20:3-6)
\n“Little children, guard yourselves from idols.” (1 John 5:21)
\nTherefore speak unto them, and say unto them, Thus says the Lord GOD;
\nEvery man of the house of Israel that sets up his idols in his heart, and puts the
\nstumbling block of his iniquity before his face, and comes to the prophet; I the
\nLORD will answer him that comes according to the multitude of his idols..
\n((Ezekiel 14.4))
\nHow does it get there? By judging! When a person judges, they lock an image of
\na person and the thing they judged, into the mind and the emotions, which will
\ncontrol them.
\n“Son of man, these men have set up their idols in their hearts, and have put right
\nbefore their faces the stumbling block of their iniquity. Should I be consulted by
\nthem at all?
\n(Ezek.. 14:3)
\n“If you forgive the sins of any, their sins have been forgiven them; if you retain
\nthe sins of any, they have been retained.” (John 20:23)
\nWhen we forgive, we are free. And if we do not, then we are bound…
\n“And do not judge and you will not be judged; and do not condemn, and you will
\nnot be condemned; pardon, and you will be pardoned. (Luke 6:37)
\nWhere there is no judgment, there is no control. What man is emotionally
\nbonded to, he is controlled by, both negatively and positively. So, you can be just
\nas much controlled by love, as hate – I either love it or fight it, but either way, I am
\ncontrolled by it.
\nTestimony. A young man in his early teens was asked if he would like some
\nhome made wine. He replied, I will never drink that muck!
\nHowever, in just one sentence, this was a vow and a judgment. In so doing, not
\njust one law was set up, but two – first, that drink is muck, and second, that he
\nwould never drink it.
\nTwo things happened. First, whereas before that event he was free, he noticeably
\nbecame judgmental, to the point that ultimately, it drove his son into becoming
\nan alcoholic.
\nThe father came to see the injury that he had done to his son through his
\njudging, and by seeking forgiveness of the son, they were restored to
\nrelationship. However, the son, to his father’s puzzlement remained an alcoholic
\nand it was not until repentance by the father of his judgment and his vow, love
\ninstead of judgment came into the father’s heart and the son was totally
\ndelivered!
\nTestimony. A man judged a tractor that it was a lemon! Some while later, when
\nneeding a tractor, and praying about it, all that he could think of was about a
\nbuying one like the one he had judged, even though it would have cost him
\n$60,000.
\nRealizing this, he repented of his judgment, and was shown a tractor for
\n$13,000 that met all his needs.
\nMost people’s problems are an idol in their heart because they have judged it.
\n(Even, I am sick, and I say, I should not be sick).
\nWhen a thing is an idol in the heart the person has a deaf, dumb and blind spirit,
\nhence cannot hear from the Holy Spirit as to how to get free (Ps. 115:4-8).
\nFather God looks at the heart and searches the heart (1 Samuel 16:7; Jeremiah
\n17:9,10; Matthew 15:8,9; Ezekiel 11:19; 2 Corinthians 5:17). Jesus gave us a
\nclean heart when we were born of the Spirit.
\nChristians who work from right and wrong are easily entrapped by judgment
\nwhen they see negatives in others, especially when it is in fellow Christians,
\nbecoming contaminated in their heart. Outwardly, the words of love and
\nacceptance are used, but from that moment on, however, they are a hypocrite,
\nsaying one thing with their mouth and their heart believing another. Pride will not
\nlet them acknowledge their judgment that has taken them into idolatry.
\nPride:
\nEverything starts with Pride. Pride, the is the root expressing itself in
\ndisobedience and judging. All that follows is fruit…
\nUnforgiveness
\nRejection (see below for fruit of Rejection)
\nRebellion
\nAddiction
\nControl (see below for the fruit of Control)
\nFear
\nDeception
\nPerversion
\nThe principality and power of death and hell attempts to kill the body, and the
\npoint of entry is Rejection (1 Samuel 15:26). Living a lie about the true state of
\nthe heart immediately follows (Isaiah 28:15 Genesis 2:17; Deuteronomy 5:16;
\nRevelation 20:14)
\nThe Effects of Idolatry:
\n1. Idolatry leads to Fear..
\nWhere there is negative emotion, arising from a judgement, it sets up Rejection,
\nwhich is the control of Fear.
\nRejection is a death curse which causes death over relationships and it will
\nbring some form of death into the people as well. Wherever rejection is in a
\nperson, death enters into their life. Something dies, and anyone under the power
\nand control of rejection is under death not physically, necessarily, but part of
\nthem is dead.
\nThe process of Rejection..
\n“Pride goes before destruction, And a haughty spirit before stumbling.” (Prov.
\n16:18)
\nNine downward steps of the control of Rejection:
\n1. Broken communion – withdrawal (Heb.12:15)
\n2. Ungrateful – seeing negatives only (2 Tim.3:2)
\nWe see and remember the negative, being unable to see any good in anything.
\nThere is something wrong with everything. Elephant syndrome, a long memory
\nof the negatives!
\n3. Stubbornness – rejecting authority (1 Sam.15:23)
\nRejection of authority instead of respecting and honoring it.
\n4. Open rebellion – taking own authority (Is.14:12)
\nI become my own authority.
\n5. Become rejected (Gen. 3:24)
\nIn applying law to control the rebellion, all that is being achieved is that control is
\nbeing used to control, control! Because it is law that is being used, instead of
\nrelationship, the result is more and greater rejection.
\n6.Compatibility of Rebellion – formation of cliques (Num 16)
\nWe need others to bolster up where we are. I look for “gang association” for
\nothers of like mind we are right and the others are all wrong.
\n7. Become immoral – defending wrong (Rom.1:21-32)
\nWe defend wrong we defend what we’re doing as right, everyone else is
\nwrong. At this point a switch takes place and guilt enters in.
\n8. Guilt – condemning others in order to cover up (Rom.2:1)
\nYou know guilt has entered because they condemn others to cover up! If you are
\ngoing around condemning, you are guilty. We judge others because we do not
\nwant then to judge us!!!
\n9. Suicidal tendencies – mood extremes (Job.10:1)
\nInside this person, in the very core, there are suicidal tendencies, anger, murder,
\nand death. The inner state of this person is unresolved grief, guilt, and
\nloneliness. Every person who opens their heart to others and (having an
\nexpectation of being loved) judges, and when they do not get love back receives
\na wounded spirit (Prov.15:13; 17:22; 18:14).
\nThe Keys of Deliverance from the Spirit of Rejection…
\n1. Find the root of rejection
\n2. Find where judgment took it in
\n3. Repent – that takes care of Father God
\n4. Forgive – that takes care of fellow man
\n5. Renounce – that takes care of Satan
\n6. Receive Jesus into the place that was freed
\n7. Ask the Holy Spirit to anoint afresh your life
\nYou will know you are free from the idol that controls through fear,
\ncondemnation, bitterness, accusation, anger, joylessness, doubt, depression,
\nphysical, mental and emotional pain and conflict (see tormentors, Matthew
\n18:34,35) because you are no longer controlled by that situation and within, you
\nwill sense love, joy, peace (see Colossians 3:15).
\n2. Idolatry leads to Independence..
\nDepression is anger turned inward from disappointment from unfulfilled
\nexpectations.
\nThe temptation to independence is the means by which Satan has his claw deep
\nin many a professing saints heart and is able to pull them down. However, the
\nHoly Spirit allows the depression to expose the heart of the believer so they can,
\nknow the truth and be set free. (John 8:32).
\nUnfulfilled expectations are actually idols in the heart, and if left unguarded,
\neasily lead to disappointment and anger. In order to deal with depression, don’t
\nlook at the anger, but to the unfulfilled expectations, and specifically with the
\njudgments behind them because the depression is locked in through them.
\nThe expectations came from the wrong tree \u00e2\u20ac\u201c resulting in judging, justifying,
\naccusing, defending wanting to put self up and the other party down, thus
\ngaining control and activating control.
\n3. Idolatry leads to Control:
\nControl exerts itself through anger.
\nAnger is first mentioned in the Bible in the account of Cain (Gen. 4:5).
\nAnger is the response of the sinful nature, to someone challenging an idol in the
\nheart.
\nAnger is an emotional feeling of agitation, offended pride, that opens the door to
\na root of bitterness (Heb. 12:15).
\nAnger is an open demonstration of pride and rebellion.
\nAnger is a negative emotional response that lets in hate, that can lead to murder
\n(1 John 3-15).
\nAnger is the root of disappointment, of being tricked (deceived); it is the fruit of
\nidolatry to man (trusting man) (Matt. 2:16).
\nDefinition: Anger is hate with negative emotion.
\nIn the light of these characteristics of anger, you would think that there was no
\nroom for anger. Christians, however, do try and make room for it through such
\nScripture as “Be angry and sin not” (Eph.4:26). However, many other Scriptures
\nmake it plain that there is no room for anger, whatsoever, such as, “Put away all
\nanger…” (Eph. 4:31, Col. 3:8).
\nThere is, however, no conflict between them for the meaning is that we are to put
\naway anger as soon as it rises in us! Even the Scripture, “Do not let the sun go
\ndown on your anger..” (Eph. 4:26), does not allow for it; it is patently absurd that
\nwe are to be allowed to be angry all day, only having to deal with it as night falls!
\nNo, we are commanded to put away all anger.
\nFurther Scriptures on this:
\n“Anger rests in the bosom of fools.” (Ecc. 7:9)
\n“The anger of man does not work the righteousness of God.” (James1:20)
\nIn other words, God cannot do His work when man is angry. When man walks in
\nthe authority of God there is no room for anger. However, many work out of
\nanger because they have no authority.
\nDo I get angry? Yes. Am I entitled to be angry? No, because behind the anger is
\njudgment. What do I do about my anger? Repent!
\nAnger is a fruit, it is a, “what”, but God works on the “why”, because it deals
\nwith the root and not just the fruits.
\nAnger is actually murder and the first thing it murders is relationships. You
\ncannot have a living relationship with anger. It destroys every relationship and if
\nleft long enough it will kill.<\/p>\n

(E) What is a Soul-Tie and How Does That Work?<\/strong><\/p>\n

What is a soul-tie? It is to be emotionally bonded in the heart to some one or
\nsome thing. This may be from God, and therefore positive, or from the enemy,
\nand therefore negative, bringing bondage and control. It means that when I give
\nmy heart I let that person have control of me emotionally.
\nGood soul-ties:
\n“For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife,
\nand they will become one flesh.” (Gen. 2:24 )
\nThis is the first commandment of marriage. It means to, “be joined”, “to cleave”
\nand to, “cling to”. Also…
\n“So now, if the boy is not with us when I go back to your servant my father and if
\nmy father, whose life is closely bound up with the boy’s life,” (Gen. 44:30)
\n(See also, 1 Sam 18:1; 1 Chron 12:17; 2 Kings 5:26; 1 Cor. 6:16)
\nSoul-ties that destroy both Soul and Body :
\n“Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body,
\nbut he who sins sexually sins against his own body.” (1 Cor. 6:18)
\nThis, and others, are soul ties which are contrary to God”s word. They take place
\nespecially through adultery and fornication.
\nControl of Emotions by Fear:
\nIt all starts when a person lets someone or something control their emotions that
\ndoes not have the persons interests in their heart.
\nWhat happens is that a “negative soul-tie” is created by an idol in the heart
\n(Ezekiel 14:3-4-7), the idol gaining entry to the heart through a judgment – an
\nexpectation that another party is going to open their heart to us. It is then
\nevidenced in the hurt feelings experienced by the one who has opened their
\nheart.
\nThrough the expectation (judgment) they are thus bound by their feelings to the
\none from whom they are not receiving a return of love.
\nHowever, a soul-tie is also generally to be found in the other party, certainly
\nwhere the heart has been hardened. It arises from a judgment ruling in the
\nloveless heart, their heart hardened, coming from law, without mercy and love,
\ncutting off of their emotions, having no sensitivity toward the one who has
\nopened their heart.
\nThus, it is a trap to have an open heart to any one, or thing, that does not have
\nthe same open heart to you, and, practically speaking, the trap could even be
\npresented by opening your heart to a person you desire to help, but doesn’t want
\nit. (This is to manifest “Caretaker Spirit” and is driven by an idol in the heart
\nthrough fear, creating a soul tie to good works. It is trying to earn approval.)
\nJesus, Himself, did not open His heart to those who hearts were hardened
\ntoward Him…
\n“But Jesus, on His part, was not entrusting Himself to them, for He knew all
\nmen..”
\n(John 2:24)
\nThose controlled by their emotions in this way will forever be forming soul-ties
\nand dependencies with those around them, especially those they love and
\nrespect and whose approval they desire. Consequently, where emotions are
\ncontrolled by fear, it is a hindrance to hearing and loving with a pure heart. In
\nfact, we need to be aware that emotions are an open door to control through
\nfear.
\nFear creates. (Job 3:25)
\nFear is a spirit. (2 Tim 1:7)
\nFear involves torment. (1 Jn 4:18)
\nWhere there is pure love there is no control.
\nWhen ministering out of Father God’s Love, there is no ulterior motive.
\nGive wanting nothing in return, taking no account of wrong.
\nMoreover, as strong as emotions might be, they are not the guide to the will of
\nGod. If it feels good, that is no reason it is right. Only a word from Jesus is pure.
\nIf circumstances are right, that is no reason it is right…
\n“When a gentle south wind began to blow, they thought they had obtained what
\nthey wanted; so they weighed anchor and sailed along the shore of Crete”. (from
\nActs 27: 9-13 )
\nThe error here resulted from going to the “Tree of the Knowledge of Good and
\nEvil” for an answer, whereas a witness of the Spirit expresses itself in a gut
\nfeeling, and not an emotion. (Jn. 7:38; 1 Jn. 2:27)…
\nHow can I know that I am walking by the Spirit? Because the fruit of the Spirit is
\nevident. (Gal 5:16)
\nA negative soul-tie is a deadly weapon that kills, binding a person to another
\nperson or situation in such a way it controls, drives, torments, and will finally
\ndestroy. It is the killer that causes the body to break down through all kinds of
\ndiseases.
\nJesus had it right. He distinguished between the urgent and the ultimate,
\nimportant over the immediate and was not driven by need or emotions. (Mk 1:30)
\nTo be free, we need to..
\nForgive rejection
\nRepent of idolatry and renounce the soul tie out of your heart
\nCut the control of fear
\nThe fruit of the release is peace. (Jn. 14:27 Phil 4:7. Col 3:15)<\/p>\n

(F) Trauma and its Control<\/strong><\/p>\n

“Trauma” is a fear locked into the emotions and the cells of the body through a
\njudgment.
\n“Why should you be beaten anymore? Why do you persist in rebellion? Your
\nwhole head is injured, your whole heart afflicted. From the sole of your foot to the
\ntop of your head there is no soundness-only wounds and welts and open sores,
\nnot cleansed or bandaged or soothed with oil”. (Is. 1:5,6)
\nDealing with Trauma takes place through the healing of every imprint in the
\nemotions and the cells of the body caused by:
\nRejection, criticism; physical blow; loud noise; event related shock or stress
\nWounded emotions (Trauma) come when the intentions are good but an offense
\nor sin occurs through disobedience, and when the offense was made much of by
\na person in authority. Having been unjustly judged (by authority), the person who
\ncommitted the offense, keenly aware of the injustice, judges the lack of love and
\nis thus traumatized.
\nExample. Out of disobedience, a child, putting its head in a dog’s mouth and
\nsubsequently bitten, it was the dog that was punished by being shot, instead of the child.
\nCaptivated by guilt, without any possible correction of the situation, the
\nchild judged itself and was thus traumatized. This child was three years old and
\neven though it had no memory of the event, as a result of the trauma formed a
\nsoul-tie (actually a “caretaker spirit”) toward animals, bound in to ever trying to
\nprotect them from harm.
\nThe results of the Curse of Trauma:
\nThe traumatized person is one, ruled by Fear, Insecurity, and “No
\nUnderstanding”, and is unable to look at situations logically and is not free to
\nknow or understand what is right to do. It is guilty from the inside, locked in
\nthrough unforgiveness and living in isolation. (Psalm 38:11)
\n“Placed in the hands of the tormentors (fear)” (Matthew 18:34-35 )
\n“The torment is fear”. (1 John 4:18 )
\n“End up in the lake of fire.” (Revelation 21:8)
\nHowever, we are not to be ruled by Fear…
\n“God has not given us a spirit of Fear..” (2 Timothy 1:7 )
\nFear is “Negative Faith!” It creates in the same way as faith.
\n“For what I fear comes upon me, And what I dread befalls me.” (Job 3:25)
\n(However, note that the creative power behind fear is Satan, as the story of Job
\nmakes clear, for this is where Job’s originated from.)
\nTrauma is a result of deeply rooted guilt, locked in through the judging of self and
\nthe refusal to forgive one’s self. (Even where the event is seemingly out of our
\ncontrol or responsibility, and as one living under law and not grace, the inner
\nman of the person judges itself.)
\nPride is what locks it in. Through pride, we don’t forgive (ourselves), we thus get
\nlocked in and can fall straight into rebellion deception and perversion.
\nWhile in a physical body, Trauma influences how I feel about some one (or thing)
\nand has more power over me than what I think.
\nIn this life, offenses will come! Those offenses rooted in our judging, where guilt
\nis present, opens us to hurt and trauma, but because of the pride, Father God
\nmust remove His protection.
\nTo get free of Trauma:
\nGiven that there is no mental or intellectual memory of the event or the offence in
\nTrauma, it is necessary to get revelation through the Holy Spirit.
\nRepent of disobedience to authority and ask another person to pray for you,
\ntaking authority over the spirit of fear and commanding the emotions to be
\nhealed.<\/p>\n

(G) The Destruction of Independence and Control in Marriage and all Relationships.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Definition: “Independence is the condition of man being disconnected from his
\nCreator, having chosen to live from the Tree of the Knowledge of Good and Evil,
\ninstead of out of relationship and intimacy with God.”
\nRelationships are all about being dead to self and alive to God and each other.
\nThat is, it is dying to independence, since independence being the destruction of
\nthe communication and love…
\n“..do not merely look out for your own personal interests, but also for the interests
\nof others” (Phillipians. 2:4 )
\nMost people have come from a very independent background, but this also
\ncreates loneliness.
\nIndependence cries out for fellowship, yet at the same time cries out for space.
\nAll day long we do independent things from our wives and husbands, and they
\nfrom us, and both have a choice to judge or not to judge, to break or stay
\ntogether.
\nBeing independent will not break a marriage, but judging independence will. In
\nfact, all relationships are broken through judgments.
\nWhy do you think people don’t want to get married these days? Because they
\ndont want responsibility of dealing with independence.
\nWhen a couple marry, they die to independence and from that moment on fight
\ndesperately to maintain their independence. Add children and the fight gets
\nstronger, because there is less time for “me”, for self!
\nAll the time, Jesus, with all the compassion of his love for us, is desiring we
\nsurrender and let Him live in and through us, so that by His strength we can be
\nall He desires for a wife, husband and children, and those around us.
\nWhen we fight for independence we activate manipulation, domination and
\ncontrol. In men, the disposition is to manifest independence (and its
\nmanipulation, domination and control) by not communicating!
\nOn the other hand, through judgment of men, the disposition of a woman is to
\nmanifest independence (and its manipulation, domination and control) by
\naccumulating all the knowledge they can about their own feelings and emotions,
\nand so have no need of a man.
\nIndependence is in the sinful nature and the “task” of the married couple is to
\novercome independence, and so to establish communication and relationship.
\nHowever, most never make it this far! Instead, they judge each other’s
\nindependence – a terrible dilemma, since in “judging the judging”, they are bound,
\nwith no possibility of intercession by one to set the other free.
\nEve was created as a help meet. To be that she needed information. However,
\ninstead of gaining it from God or her husband, and driven by the spirit of
\nindependence, she went to find it at the Tree of the Knowledge of Good and Evil.
\nIn this way, Satan offered Eve information apart from Adam by eating of the tree
\nof knowledge. By eating from that tree, Eve became controlled by knowledge,
\nknowledge became an idol. Adam by taking the fruit from Eve became controlled
\nby Eve’s emotions. In so doing, emotions became both their idol.
\nWhen a woman is upset she speaks logic, bombarding the male with questions,
\n(although the root behind this is actually judgment and its fruit, anger).
\nWhen a male reacts to emotional control, by judging it, he comes under its
\ncontrol. By exhibiting emotion himself he is showing that he is under emotional
\ncontrol. What is happening is that he is actually manifesting the woman’s
\nemotions, getting angry or going into silence (which is control).
\nAll males can communicate as long as there are no emotions involved! It is
\nillustrated in men who will chat for long a time about external issues.
\nPersonal testimony. Having come to Jesus at the age of 16 a lump of ignorant
\nuncouth humanity full of rejection, now desiring to be truthful to following Jesus,
\nwith no idea that Jesus sent the Holy Spirit to do it all as long as I surrender my
\nindependence.<\/p>\n

(H) The Root of Divorce<\/strong><\/p>\n

Definition: Divorce is “a complete or radical severance of closely connected
\nthings.” It means, “to cut off; separate or disunite”
\n“Do two walk together unless they have agreed to do so?”
\n(Amos 3:3)
\n“How good and pleasant it is when brothers live together in unity! It is like
\nprecious oil poured on the head, running down on the beard, running down on
\nAaron’s beard, down upon the collar of his robes. It is as if the dew of Hermon
\nwere falling on Mount Zion. For there the LORD bestows his blessing, even life
\nforevermore.” (Ps. 133:1-3)
\n“[Love] is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no
\nrecord of wrongs.” (1 Cor. 13:5)
\nThe most important thing in marriage (and all relationships) is to walk free of
\njudgment, because Judgment creates separation.
\nThrough judging, the absence of love turns “giving into wanting”, a “demand for
\nrights, instead of a fulfillment of responsibilities”.
\nWhen two people meet for the first time and form a relationship, and before
\njudgment comes in, there is total acceptance. Why? Because there is no
\nknowledge on which to form a judgment!!!
\nAll relationships are built on attraction and desire, but when these (godly) desires
\nare turned into expectations through judging “good”, the foundation of the
\nrelationship becomes based on law (instead of love and grace). The result is
\nseparation.
\nHowever, because there are expectations in the heart, the failure in either party
\nto meet them gives rise to disappointment (which is in itself judgment) and
\nfurther resulting in depression (for depression, see Part (I) ).
\n“… for where your treasure is, there will your heart be also.” (Matt. 6:21)
\nAt the point that the desire of one party has become an idol in the heart, (and
\nwhich has entered through an expectation, a judgment) but is unfulfilled by the
\nother, the ensuing judgment by the first party locks in disappointment.
\nIf not dealt with, disappointment turns to bitterness, further judgments then
\ncome, opening the door to divorce.
\nKnowing what the effects of judging are within relationships when one judges,
\ngetting it right is so powerful!
\nIn the case of a marriage, the one who judges has taken their heart out of the
\nmarriage and from that moment on the spirit of divorce is activated. Such is the
\ndepth of the curse of judging in marriage that left untouched it will surely bring
\nthe marriage down.
\nJudging within marriage is the key divorce uses.
\nThe moment that happens the one who judges separates themselves out,
\nspeaking as a teacher, talks down to the other and has no sensitivity to the
\nothers feeling.
\n“[Jesus] said to them, “Because of your hardness of heart, Moses permitted you
\nto divorce your wives; but from the beginning it has not been this way.” (Matt.
\n19:8)
\nThe values of our culture or our family that we live by is actually laws. By
\ndefinition, since it is law, the result is judging. In other words, at the everyday
\nlevel and at the lowest level of our thoughts, we live by judging!!! We bring these
\nstandards and values, which are nothing more than laws, into our relationships
\nand they form the basis of the offences that we judge to have taken place in
\nthem.
\nTestimony. A husband made a decision to rent a house that was for sale,
\nbelieving they would be in it for some time before it would be sold. However, it
\nsold the day they moved in. Sadly, the wife, judged her husband for his
\ndecision*, with the result that the spirit of divorce entered into the relationship. If it
\nis not dealt with, it will result in actual divorce. However, if the wife removes her
\njudgment, the spirit of divorce will be judged, since forgiveness is the judgment
\nof God*, and the marriage can be restored.
\n(* Actually, the wife was judging her husband’s judgement, since his decision
\nwas not the judgment of God for the family, but his own, proceeding from the
\nTree of the Knowledge of Good and Evil. Moreover, the husband was not acting
\nfrom relationship and intimacy with his wife, thus uncovering her.)
\n(**Sin is judged by forgiveness, because forgiveness is the way that sin is
\ncanceled! Through the Cross, and His forgiveness, God has dealt with and
\nremoved the sins of the world. A man’s sins forgiven, it is imperative that it be
\nunderstood that it is not his sins and transgressions that send a man to Hell,
\nsince they are only fruit, but the absence of relationship with God!)<\/p>\n

(I) Law Verses Grace<\/strong><\/p>\n

“But Noah found grace in the eyes of the LORD.” (Gen. 6:8 )
\n“For the law was given by Moses, but grace and truth came by Jesus Christ.”
\n(John 1:17)
\nDefinition: “Grace is “unmerited favor”. It is the decision taken to bestow favor
\nand to “overlook” offense, based not on the merit of the recipient, but on the
\ngoodness of the benefactor.”
\nLaw brings condemnation, but grace brings mercy. Law “uncovers” sin, but grace
\n“covers” it. The example is to be found in Noah, himself. His son, Ham, instead of
\ncovering Noah’s nakedness and shame (with grace), put law upon his father and
\njudged (condemned) him (according to that law). As a result, Ham, himself, was
\ncursed, coming under the judgment of God and cast out of His favor. Ham
\nwas, in fact, judged according to his own law! Indeed, we can see from this
\nexample that through judging, we thus “fall into the hands of the living God”. And,
\nas it says, it is a “fearful thing”. (Hebrews 10.31)
\nThrough judging, man is raising himself above the throne of God and God,
\nHimself, falling into the very same trap that Satan fell into. (Isaiah 14)
\nFor all those who will leave the place of the “Tree of the Knowledge of Good and
\nEvil” and the making of law through judging, there is total forgiveness and
\nfreedom to enter into the sanctuary of His, God’s, favor and all the blessings
\ntherein. Praise be to the Lord.
\n\u00e2\u20ac\u0153And straightening up, Jesus said to her, “Woman, where are they? Did no one
\ncondemn you? And she said, “No one, Lord.” And Jesus said, “Neither do I
\ncondemn you; go your way. From now on sin no more.” (John 8:10,11)
\nIf you live by the law you will have an argument! If you live out of the Spirit you
\nwill have no argument, because you live out of love. Every time I judge another, I
\nam putting a list over my own life.
\nIf you live out of good and evil, if you are walking out of the soul, if you are living
\nby the Law, these are the things that you will manifest:
\nLaw (not love)
\nSelf (not others)
\nSacrifices (life is burdened)
\nConcepts
\nRules
\nReligion “Making law of what we heard yesterday instead of getting fresh
\nmanna daily.””
\nMartyrs “People who will die for causes and give themselves in sacrifice, but
\nthey are ruled by their mind”
\nRuled by the Mind – Ever learning and getting an idea of the Truth, yet never
\nactually coming to the Truth, since it is only to be found in knowing Jesus, who is
\nthe “Truth, the Way and the Life” (Jn. 14:6)
\nIf you are ruled by the Spirit:
\nWalking in the Spirit – you cannot tell where they are coming from or where they
\nare going since they live by the Spirit. (John 3:8)
\nThere is no Law – guided by God, not rules (Gal. 5:16)
\nThere is no Sacrifice – whatever you do is all joy (Neh. 8:10)
\nThere is Freedom from Control – You are at peace with self and others around
\nyou.
\nThere is no Fear – You cannot control someone who is not afraid. Fearful people
\nare fearful of fear-free people because they cannot control them (Gal. 4:30)
\nThere is Life – not burdened down with the cares of this world.
\nThere is Health – your body might get the flu but you do not get it!!!
\nThere is Vitality of Life Inside – so whatever happens on the outside does not
\nmatter as much.
\nThere is Love, Joy and Peace – life is not burdened and full of pain.<\/p>\n

(J) How Spiritual Issues Affect the Physical Body<\/strong><\/p>\n

“Then it shall come about, because you listen to these judgments and keep and
\ndo them, that the Lord your God will keep with you His covenant and His
\nloving kindness which He swore to your forefathers. “And He will love you and
\nbless you and multiply you; He will also bless the fruit of your womb and the fruit
\nof your ground, your grain and your new wine and your oil, the increase of your
\nherd and the young of your flock, in the land which He swore to your forefathers
\nto give you. “You shall be blessed above all peoples; there shall be no male or
\nfemale barren among you or among your cattle. “And the Lord will remove from
\nyou all sickness; and He will not put on you any of the harmful diseases of Egypt
\nwhich you have known, but He will lay them on all who hate you. (Deut. 7:12-15)
\nThe promise of God is that He will take away all sickness, as long as we walk in
\nHis ways. See also…
\nGod is the one who heals (Exodus 15:26)
\nServe God and He will take away all sickness (Exodus 23:25)
\nBore our sicknesses, by His stripes we are healed (Isaiah 53:4-6)
\nWho heals all your diseases (Psalm 103:1-5)
\nAs the Father sent me I send you (John 20:21)
\nThese signs will follow those who believe (Mark 16:17,18)
\nCall Elders, anoint with oil (James 5:13-15)
\nReasons why people are not healed:
\nUnconfessed sin (Psalm 66:18) – Especially of being angry, unforgiving and
\njudging.
\nDisobedience – The rebellious dwell in dry places (Psalm 68:6)
\nUnbelief – (Mark 6:5,6)
\nUn-forgiveness – (Mat. 18:34,35; Mark 11:25,26; John 20:23)
\nOccult – (Deut. 18:9-12)
\nSowing and reaping – (Galatians 6:7-8)
\nSickness and how it relates to the word of God and relationships:
\nThese symptoms can come from the environment, not always the sin of the
\nperson. However, through judging, there can be a transfer of sickness into the
\nperson who judges. In other words, in judging the sickness, it is visited upon him.
\n(Matt 7:1-6)
\nThe following Bible references speak about the relationship between judging and
\nsickness. (Please note, however, that it is not to be used as a means of
\ndiagnosis, but rather only as a starting point for revelation that is to be sought
\nand found through prayer.)
\nStarting with, “Death and life are in power of the tongue.” (Deut.18:21), there are
\nmany examples of this….
\nCANCER – Grief (Psalm 31:9,10) – In the physical realm, an
\nindependent spirit causes one cell to rebel
\nagainst the all other cells. It is a cell of the body
\nthe immune system need to be told to attack
\nand destroy it.
\nALHEIZMERS -Guilt (Proverbs 28:13; Romans 2:1)
\nANGER -Disappointment, deceived, tricked (Matthew 2:16)
\nDEPRESSION – Depression is anger turned inwards through
\ndisappointments arising from false expectations (1 Kings 21:4; Luke 24:17 ..sad)
\nBACK PAIN – Jealousy (Psalm 64) – Lower back = Burden
\nbearing
\nJOINT PAIN – No love in relationships (Ephesians 4:16
\nColossians 2:19)
\nHEART – Fear (Luke 21:26)
\nBLOOD PRESSURE – Anger (1 Samuel 25:37-38) – a stroke because
\nof his anger)
\nHAIR – Frustration (Ezra 9:3)
\nVEINS – Restricted circulation, frustration
\nARTHRITIS – Bitterness, resentment (Heb. 12:15)
\nFOOT PROBLEMS – No peace (Ephesians 6:15)
\nKNEES – Problem between person and their parents (Gen.
\n30:3; 48:12; 50:23; 2 Ki. 4:20;
\nIs. 66:12)
\nLIVER – Seduction (Prov. 7:23; Ezekiel 21:21)
\nKIDNEYS – Mind blockage (Ps. 73:21; Jer. 17:10 )
\nBOILS, TUMOURS, SCAB, ITCH, MADNESS, BLINDNESS, CONFUSION OF
\nHEART – Some of the curses of idolatry (Deut.28)
\nBOWELS – No compassion (1 John 3:17 (KJV); Col 3:12)
\nWOUNDED EMOTIONS – Trauma (Isaiah 1: 5-8)
\nMULTIPLE SCLEROSIS – Humiliation with shock, locked in through deep
\nrevenge because have not forgiven
\n(Lev. 26:16; Deut. 28:22)
\nASTHMA – Smothered by mothers emotions when a child.
\nfear. (Rev. 21:8; 2 Tim. 1:7)
\nECZEMA – Witchcraft, superstition from grandmother
\nSKIN – Leprosy (Lev.13)
\nPAIN AROUND HEAD – Witchcraft (1 Sam. 15:23; Is. 26:3) – mind not on
\nJesus
\nBREASTS – Lack of comfort and provision, seat of love (Prov.
\n5:19) Can be the result of having an abortion. A
\nHormone lodges in the breast
\nEYES – Sexual immorality (Jud. 16:2; Matt. 5:27-29)
\nDisobedience (Deut 28:28)
\nTHYROID – Body full of adrenalin from always being alert, no
\nrest (Heb. 4:11)
\nNECK – Stiff necked, stubborn (Ex. 32:9; Deut. 10:16;
\n31:27; 2 Chron 30:8; 36:13; Acts 7:51;
\n1 Sam. 15:23; Prov.1:8,9; 3:3; 6:20-23)
\nSHOULDERS – Bearing burdens (Matt. 11:28-30; Neh. 9:29)
\nHIPS – Wrestling against God (Gen 32:24-25)
\nSTOMACH PAIN – Lies and deception (Eph. 6:14)
\nCHEST PAIN – Unrighteousness (Eph. 6:14)
\nBONES – Wounded spirit (Prov. 14:30; 17:22)
\nHEMORRHOIDS – Holy vessel in unholy temple (1 Sam. 5:6)
\nDEPRESSION – Anxiety in the heart (Prov. 12:25)
\nANOREXIA\/BULIMIA – Death Curse (Ps. 107:17,18)
\nM.E – (See below)
\nIn addition to the conditions commented on above, scripture and experience also
\nindicate that the body is affected according to human relationships, with the right
\nside being male, and the left side, female. (Song of Solomon 2:6; 8:3; Ecc.10:2;
\nMatt. 25:33)
\nIt means that should there be a problem in the right side of your body, then it is to
\ndo with male relationships. Example, right knee = father.
\nAlso, from, “Mind and Medicine” by David Black:
\nMALIGNANCY is a response to despair.
\nPATIENTS LIKELY TO GET CANCER, inability to express emotion, the inability
\nto grieve, hold resentments, cannot forgive, self-pity, cannot develop and
\nmaintain long term relationships. Poor self image.
\nLUNG CANCER, intense emotional repression.
\nBREAST AND PROSTATE, sex role.
\nPATIENTS LIKELY TO THROW OFF CANCER, someone with high ego strength
\nand high self esteem, flexibility of thought, the ability to tolerate stress, a healthy
\nenjoyment of people plus capacity to be comfortable alone.
\nPATIENTS LIKELY TO GET HEART ATTACKS, short tempered, competitive,
\naggressive,urgent,impatient. Constantly feeling under pressure and fighting time.
\nA frustrated angry over achiever.
\nPATIENTS SUFFERING FROM RHEUMATOID ARTHRITIS, martyrs, selfconscious,
\nshy, intolerant, anything less than perfection, inhibited, tense,
\nnervous, moody. Convinced their Mothers had rejected them, and their fathers
\nhad been extremely strict. Unable to express anger, oddly fond of sports.
\nPATIENTS SUFFERING FROM COLITIS, tend to be obsessive, compulsive,
\nindecisive, fanatically neat, morally rigid, over intellectual, conforming and
\nanxious, fastidious. Sheep anxious. to stay in the flock.
\nM.E.
\nThis is a “Me” disease! The nerves are detached from the brain, causing wasting
\ndiseases in the muscles, sapping strength and leaving the person frustrated.
\nStressed, Frustrated, Angry, Deep resentment, Contentious, their “Will”\u009d is not
\nunder God or Man. Having no submission in their heart, the result is that there is
\nno protection, no cover, leaving them naked, both spiritually and emotionally.
\nThey believe they are not heard; they have something important to say, yet no
\none listens.
\nThey are often high achievers under stress, resulting in their gifting and capacity
\nbeing out of balance. They run on emotional energy, and if not checked, the
\nresult is, “Burn Out”.
\nIn women, they marry laid back men who will not respond at the snap of a finger,
\nmaking the situation worse, bringing out more frustration.
\nAgain in a female, deep in their heart there is a resentment toward Father God
\nbecause he made male first, not female. The reason behind the resentment is
\nbecause they see much more detail faster than men and believe their abilities
\nare not being recognized in a male dominated world.
\nMale or female, when ability is blocked by a person in relationship authority to
\nthem, unforgiveness sets up a curse, locking the person in to being continually
\nfrustrated, resulting in becoming drained and burnt out emotionally.
\nMen manifest M.E. out of explosive anger from tunnel vision that locks them into
\none narrow frame of thinking. Frustrated at not being able to achieve their goal,
\nthey get even more angry.
\nAll of the above is the result of PRIDE in their abilities.
\nBecause all ability is a gift from God, there is no room for pride and there needs
\nto be an attitude of compassion towards those who do not have abilities such as
\ntheir own!
\nExample. A man is able to drive fast and safe because of his ability to anticipate
\nwhat is happening on all sides and ahead. Being on a road full of traffic with
\ndrivers who are not “with it”, for what ever reason, winds the person up who has
\nthe ability. Not a nice situation. (“Road rage” is a fruit!)
\nThe bottom line: There is no submission in the HEART, with all the tension
\nlocked in through judgment.<\/p>\n

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