Man was created in the image of God.
Genesis 1:26-27
All of God was built into man.
Man was given free will, told what to do and left to choose.
Genesis 2:16-17
God being the creator Genesis 1:1
He reserved the right to be the Judge, Genesis 2:17
He is the only one who sees the heart, not just what people do, but why.
1Samuel 16:7. Jeremiah 17:9-10. Matthew 15:8-9.
He gave man a law to choose to live under him as their creator, or rebel and go independent.
Genesis 3:6 Man, chose to go independent.
From that moment on all mankind is born with a fallen human nature of,
Pride, Independence, Judging and Rebellion, that leads to deception and perversion.
When parents have not dealt with their fallen nature, [independence] by surrendering to Jesus Christ, the moment a direction is spoken, the child receives it as law.
Example. Stop crying, be quiet, do not do that.
For a child to rebel is a clear sign that the child has lost respect.
Has no relationship with the one giving the instruction.
The parent needs to pray and ask for a clear word as to the incident where the child felt hurt, [creating the loss of respect] admit the mistake and ask the child’s forgiveness.
Law takes away the child’s right to choose and the child responds with rebellion.
This rebellion is in the genes at conception.
Every newborn child has the capacity in their spirit to discern love or law.
Rebellion is the highest form of control. Law is also control, so a fight is set up between the rebellion of the child, and the law of the parents, both in rebellion to the will of Father God.
There becomes a battle of the will of the parent, and the will of the child.
Ever tried to force feed a young child who refuses to eat?
A rebellious child has the greater control, causing frustration in the parents, the parents get angry and anger leads to murder [Genesis 4] and all the actions that end in death. The first death is the death of relationship.
The letter of the law kills. 2Corinthians 3:6
Evil takes root the moment a parent speaks a command as law to a child, for whatever reason, there is no relationship in law.
There is no sin till law is brought into the equation.
Where there is no law there is no sin.
There is no need for law where there is relationship, law is a proof of lack of relationship.
Parents who were hurt as child, and have not dealt with it in their hearts, pass on the same hurtful condition to their children.
The child has 3 choices.
1) To obey. And it will go well with them. Ephesians 6:1-3
2) To disobey, and become rebellious. And dwell in dry land
Psalm 68:6.
3) Go to a higher law, which is Jesus, for direction.
My sheep hear my voice. I know them and they follow me,
John 10:27.
1Cointhians 15:56. The sting of death is sin; and the strength of sin is the law.
Romans 10:14. “For Christ is the end of the law for righteousness, to every one that believeth.”
The only way to live and not be controlled by the Law is to be in Christ, who through His death, burial and resurrection fulfilled the law by a higher law, which is the law of love. carried out in relationship.
He lived in total obedience to his earthly and heavenly father.
Luke 2:51 John 5:19
He only said and did what his Father told him. John 5:30.
Unless what is said and done is bathed in relationship, all that is said and done, will be empowered by law, which destroys relationship.
The following is an example
A son who asked his father if he could play soccer on Sunday and the reply was no. The son immediately went into rebellion because the answer was birthed out of law.
The same son later asked if he could have a TV in his bedroom the parent asked Jesus what to do and he said “yes†told the son he could and there was peace.
A prayer
Jesus all for Jesus All I am and have and ever hope to be
All of my ambitions hopes and plans I surrender these into your hands.
For it is only in your will that I am free.
A related topic.
Another issue that controls people is the Curse of Trauma, which many children grow up under.
Elsewhere on this site you will find an article on this subject.