Judging Expectations

By Roy Waldrom

The Fruit of Judging Expectations

Expectation is wishing with confidence of fulfillment ,
The feeling that something is about to happen

We had all our children their spouses and grand-children home for Christmas.
I spent time pondering what I was expected to do?, What do they expect of me?
When I asked the Holy Spirit that question, What were they expecting of me?
The answer I got was they were not expecting anything..

What was going on deep within me was, I had an expectation that people
have expectations of me.
That is a judgment on my part that has locked me in to believing people have
expectations of me. This is a control because without communication I am
lost in the control of the expectation that I do not know about but only think
I do.

This all goes way back in my life, yet only now has the key been revealed,
so now I must repent [of the expectation] to be free.

Bizarre to say the least.
No one is responsible or guilty of expectations that have never been

The above situation plays out mostly in children who have been subject to rejection.
Rejection causes a child to have no self-esteem, always looking for
approval, hence looking for ways to prove they are worthy to be accepted.

When there is no positive affirmation to the good deeds, a wound festers
deep in the inner being. To survive often manifests in rebellion.

The root of all rebellion is a real or perceived rejection.
(For a fuller explanation of the rejection read section D in the notes on
the Ministry of Reconciliation at www.forgiveit.com)

It is only when I set people free to have a problem with me that I am
People who have a problem with any problem, have a problem.

The problem is they have judged and in doing so locked themselves in (mentally and emotionally, plus if not dealt with in later years, physically.) to being controlled by what they judged.

Put another way,

For a person to be rejected a perpetrator makes a judgment that the victim
is not worthy of their love, acceptance and forgiveness, and they have a
right to use them any way they choose, for whatever they desire, for example,
rape them.

To rape a person there has to be a judgment that they have a right to do so.
The victim often has a judgment against the very thing that happened to them
which is the key to why they become a victim, Job 3:25, Proverbs 26:2 and
Deuteronomy 24:16. [quote the verses?]

To make it worse, when the victim judges the perpetrator they lock in the
( perpetrator’s ) judgment behind what was done to them.

A judgment of a judgment resulting in a double curse.

All mankind is a victim of the fall recorded in Genesis 3.

Children are not innocent, but they are ignorant.
In the heart of every person when born is a fallen nature that is full of
The pride is that they are perfect and pure and no one should mistreat
Proverbs 16:18 Pride goes before destruction, and a haughty spirit before a
That sets the child up for a fall because no one is perfect, especially
parents and siblings.
Also the child has no choice to where it was born or its parents.

The Key to Freedom

Repent for judging out of self-knowledge obtained from human knowledge and

Repent from being taught what is right and wrong by a set of rules that say what is
good and what is evil according to man’s understanding.
There were 2 trees in the Garden Genesis 2 and 3.
One called the knowledge of Good and Evil, which Father God told man not to eat of and the day he did he would die.
Communion between God and Man would be broken.
This tree has 2 fruit, both forbidden, why?
Because it is using comparison from law, not from relationship.
Man saying and doing things independent of the one who created him and the universe, Father God.
The other tree was called the tree of Life.
All wisdom, knowledge and understanding is in that tree, the only catch is that it requires a relationship with Life who is Jesus,
John 14:6.I am thee way, thee truth and thee Life.

Repent of Judging, (what one sees and been subject to, instead of knowing why.)

Man judges by what people say and do, God judges the heart.
1 Samuel 16:7, Jeremiah 17:9-10, Matthew 15:8-9.

A question.
What causes an incident to become a control?

Why is it that a person who was raped in childhood (which is a happening in
time as sad as it is) 20 years later still being controlled emotionally and

Judging it. If there is no judgment, there is no control.

Example. A lady around 27 years of age asked for prayer concerning her
My reply was that I wanted to talk to her about rejection.
She shared that she was molested as a teenager and I told her she needed to
forgive the man. Her reply was that she couldn’t.

The word I received by the Holy Spirit was that if she didn’t she would live
in the ever present state of being molested.
She shouted Wow three times and said “I forgive” and was instantly set free.
A week later we talked, she had lost 11 pounds in weight and had not changed
her diet.
(One way of loosing weight)

The lie we have all been fed is that to be free the perpetrator needs to pay for what they did and the victim would be free.
It is never the incident that destroys, it is judging and unless the judgment is removed there is no true freedom.

It s a narrow yet exciting path because it means one is in communication
with the true life (living by the Holy Spirit) that sets the captives free.

The Holy Spirit longs to give people the answers that will set them free,
but, being true to His nature, he has to be asked.

James 4:2 You lust, and have not: ye kill, and desire to have, and cannot
obtain: you fight and war, yet you have not, because ye ask not.

A friend wrote,
When you think about it, that is a very common control. It is also connected
to wanting to be liked/approved.

All of us need to repent, and set our own selves free not to be liked/approved by others!
In a way the control† is not on others, but ourselves.

What does it mean to repent?

To repent means to turn around, stop blaming, take full responsibility for
my response and ask Father God to forgive.

Because He has totally forgiven all man_s sin, (Disobedience).

Not forgiving (unforgiveness) is the greatest statement of pride, which says
”I am better, I know better and never do anything wrong..”

After confessing being wrong for responding out of pride, ask to be forgiven.

Receive the forgiveness, command the control to leave and pray an
unconditional blessing down upon the perpetrator.

You will know when you are free because you will feel love, joy and peace
flowing up from deep with in.

John 14:27 Peace I leave with you, my peace I give unto you: not as the
world gives, give I unto you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it
be afraid.

Colossians 3:15 And let the peace of God rule in your hearts, to the which
also ye are called in one body; and be ye thankful.

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